Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose. - Yoda It took me a while to come up with a tag line for this blog site. The memoir's subtitle is Discovering Motherhood After a Loss. But the blog was born out of living a polarity, publishing essays about raising a little person while living … Continue reading To Non-Attachment
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Parenting with a Magic 8 Ball
Part of my parenting role now is careful, considered detachment. There are books upon books about attachment, but the reality is a lot of that comes naturally. Sure, it’s exhausting, and you don’t always know if you’re doing it right, but instinct typically is your friend. When someone cries, it's innate to reach out and console. … Continue reading Parenting with a Magic 8 Ball
Roadblocks in Parenting Solo (or Missing X)
Five years ago legally (eight years spiritually), our marriage ended. But regardless of how you count it, our parenting experience was not dramatically affected. I have notes from a few days into our “new normal” when G said, “Mama, I have the music on loud.” “Yes?” “And I’m bouncing the big ball against the door.” “Yes.” “Am … Continue reading Roadblocks in Parenting Solo (or Missing X)
Hugging an armful of sand
Loving a teenager, I’ve decided, is like hugging an armful of sand. Try though I may, it’s impossible to gather all of that sand, and even if I could, I can’t hold onto it—even for a moment. It was a joke at first when I said, “I’ve done attachment, now I need to do detachment.” … Continue reading Hugging an armful of sand
What Motivated Me
Yesterday, I attended a writing workshop with the author, Elizabeth Berg. Among the many pieces of wisdom she imparted, she added: put it out there. Write, and then share. For the workshop I wrote the following piece. *** Following the church spire, I drive and then walk around Wakefield, Massachusetts, first settled in 1638, a … Continue reading What Motivated Me
Where I End & She Begins 