Twenty-three years ago, in griefWe etched all of our namesIn stone, imagining no otherOutcome than us, intact foreverIt was the best we could doSince we could not bring him backWe promised his ashes companyOne day, when our time arrived Time, all by itself, has a wayOf changing things, and yetWe played a role, too—we lovedLess … Continue reading Poem: Etched in Stone
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Between Two States, Ohio Part 2
Across the Ohio River, we look at West Virginia. (West Virginia owns the river, despite Ohio’s plea to the Supreme Court for its namesake.) We can see the West Virginia train on the other bank, and at night, lights on their parallel-running road display intermittent ribbons of red and white. Sometimes we can hear their … Continue reading Between Two States, Ohio Part 2
The Other Side of the Coin
One of the byproducts of attachment parenting the way we practiced it —without bottles or pumps—is that feeding delivered not only nutrition but also comfort. By its nature, breastfeeding enhances attachment. I have no virtual reality in which we can replay the past to see if X would have felt closer to G as a little … Continue reading The Other Side of the Coin
Roadblocks in Parenting Solo (or Missing X)
Five years ago legally (eight years spiritually), our marriage ended. But regardless of how you count it, our parenting experience was not dramatically affected. I have notes from a few days into our “new normal” when G said, “Mama, I have the music on loud.” “Yes?” “And I’m bouncing the big ball against the door.” “Yes.” “Am … Continue reading Roadblocks in Parenting Solo (or Missing X)
Where I End & She Begins 