Growing up in Northern California, winters were long and grey and wet. Thirty degrees was a notable low, “Mommy! It’s freezing!” I would exclaim when we headed south on 101, driving by the digital display of time and temperature, courtesy of Wells Fargo. The novelty of thirty-two degrees equating to freezing fit comfortably for me … Continue reading In the Sun
memoir
Poem: Beginning, Middle, End
You are my beginning My ray of light The first to breathe Say “Mama” And whisper “I love you” To hold and be held With you, I learn From you, I study Beside you, I discover Glancing at the path ahead As my first growing child You receive The mirror you need to grow You … Continue reading Poem: Beginning, Middle, End
Love, Santa
From the Memoir. Christmastime 2007 Among the piles of notes on my desk was an errand list, itemized by store. We needed a rake from Home Depot, olive oil from Costco, and from the grocery store—in different handwriting—we needed a dog. I asked G about it. “Mama, I think we should have two houses, attached to … Continue reading Love, Santa
Overcoming Fear
“Mirabel [the dolly] is afwaid to ride hea bike.” “What do you say to her?” “O. Ver. Come. Yoa. Fea.” Overcome your fear. One Sunday night in May, G and I read stories as usual, but when she started to nurse, it felt painful to me. I was gritting my teeth. Unpremeditated words tumbled out of … Continue reading Overcoming Fear
Game: Wild Kitty Zone > Yellow Light
… a place where words can run free Why: Learn to release pain, frustration, and other difficult emotions in a safe way. Releasing is step one for letting go. Understand and build restraint. Honor child’s words and feelings even if they’re unpolished. Guidelines: It’s ok to have strong feelings. Use your words. Play only with … Continue reading Game: Wild Kitty Zone > Yellow Light
Craft: Basic Animal Costumes
Called “basic” for a reason, these are sweetened clothes. A hoodie-set or an old turtleneck transformed with a bit of fabric. Simple to make, easy to wash, gentle on the pocket-book, and transformative for the imagination. Ingredients: Hooded sweatsuit or fleece set (top and pants) or matching long t-shirt and pants in an appropriate backdrop … Continue reading Craft: Basic Animal Costumes
Craft: Magic Tray
This white tray was worth its weight in gold. Its morning project created the motivation needed to hop out of bed (and not nurse)! Sort of like Crafty Santa each morning. Ingredients: A large tray, preferably white or a solid color to offset the project... plus basics near the tray everyday: Colored pens or pencils Pencil … Continue reading Craft: Magic Tray
Finding the Roots
I started visualizing G's emotional releases like pulling weeds. Carefully taking hold of her focus, trying to find the stem cause, and then teasing it out to see if we could get access to the deepest roots. Not only were we working on the issue at hand, we were also making space for sunlight to hit … Continue reading Finding the Roots
Craft: Love Pocket
The love pocket partly because it tangibly represents “where I end and she begins.” Letting go to say goodbye for camp or daycare or preschool, a note or photo in a special pocket reminds your sweetheart of you in your absence. Especially helpful for dresses or outfits without pockets, this pocket attaches to anything (with … Continue reading Craft: Love Pocket
Braving Preschool
The day before preschool started, we played at home, close to each other, sewing, beading, painting, glitter-gluing, talking, and having lunch, never more than twenty feet apart. Blue skies and a cool autumn breezes called us to our favorite park. G went straight to something she had never tried before: the fireman’s pole. “How do I … Continue reading Braving Preschool
Where I End & She Begins 